What are common issues (for both men and women) that you’ve heard over and over again?
Vaginismus (painful or impossible vaginal penetration) remains the number one reason couples come to see me. Others include low sex drive, sexual problems after having a baby, and erectile difficulties—just to name a few. For the younger male population, I’m noticing complaints about the ease and duration of erection related to frequent porn use. By being overly-dependent on porn for arousal, many men are not learning about their bodies and their masturbation patterns are preventing them from being comfortable and confident with their sexual performance.
Is there anything Singaporeans should do to be better lovers?
We’ve become so dependent on being plugged in that it’s so common for people to check their phones, even during sex. Singaporeans should learn to do one thing at a time. People who can’t slow down and focus their attention on themselves and on their partners will have less fulfilling sexual experiences in the long run.
Noticed anything new and trending in the world of sex?
Google Glass. The word that came to mind was spectatoring, which does not necessarily help with being present with a partner.
Any sex advice?
First of all, it’s not just about penetrative sex. There are many ways in which you can be sexually intimate, like with sex toys. It’s important to be comfortable and confident in your sexuality by yourself. Secondly: Learn. There’s a ton of information out there. The more you know, the less afraid you’ll be. Also, seek help early. Sex is not necessarily a taboo topic. Many people do recognize the role of sex in one’s wellbeing and are seeking professional support.
